Tuesday, 1 December 2009
Friendship/Love is not a simple thing
दोस्ती या प्यार जो भी नाम दें यह संच है कि कुछ रिश्ते नायाब होते हैं और इसमें भी कोई दो राय नहीं कि रिश्तों में अपेक्छाओं का होना भी स्वाभाविक है | मन काफी दुखी होता है जब ऐसा नहीं हो पता है | जब कभी आपके इर्द गिर्द का पर्यावरण आपके मनोनुकूल होता है तो सब आपसे अछा वैव्हार करते हैं सब आपकी बड़ाई करते हैं , सब आपका गुणगान करते हैं, सब आपके पास आपके मनलायक बातें भी करते हैं, आपको लगता है सब कुछ बहुत अच्छा है, सब अच्छे हैं और सबके लिए आप अच्छे हैं | In order to run the show everybody just give you all the kinds of importance which you desrve or even desire. And you get a feeling of being in a position of power, doing all the things as per your conveniance. Nothing wrong in this as one should live in present and should enjoy life as it is available to him. But just a minute if the situation turns just unfavourable for you who remains beside you- only those persons who love you by heart, truly by heart. कभी ऐसा भी होता है जब हर कोई आपसे बात तक करने में सावधानी बरतने लगता है, लोग आपसे कन्नी काटने लगते हैं | आपको तंग करने के लिए साजिशें भी रची जाने लगती हैं और हर कोई सहानुभूति तो दर्शा सकता है पर उसके आगे शायद हीं वो कुछ करे | पर जो आपसे प्यार करते हैं वो तमाम बिपरीत परिस्थितिओं में भी आपके साथ रहते हैं, इस बात कि परवाह नहीं करते हैं कि आपके साथ के साहचर्य से लोग नाराज़ भी हो सकते हैं | ऐसे लोग दिल से आपके करीब होते हैं | यह आपका फ़र्ज़ है कि उनकी भावनाओं का ख्याल रखा जाए | भले ही ऐसी स्थिति में आपको कुछ अप्रिय स्थिति का सामना करना पड़े कुछ परेशानिओं का सामना करना पड़े | दिल के रिश्ते साधारण नहीं होते और न ही एक दो दिन में हर किसी के साथ बिकसित हो सकते हैं| If you cant spare some exclusive qualtiy time for your loved one then all the words are simply futile and meaningless. whatever may be the compulsion you are dutybound to act according to wishes of your "Friend". If you are not mentally prepared for this ,better a temporary pause button should be pressed in your relationship .
Monday, 30 November 2009
Rare Personality
PERSONALITY is one of those SPECIAL things which cannot be compressed into a few words. When we think of certain individuals who have GREAT personality, we are at once made aware that no two personalities are alike . One impresses by charm n beauty, another by the sense of power, another by the grace of manner, another by the DEGREE of intellect, and still another by the sense of HUMANITY and finally another exhibiton of positive attitude.But no personality has all of these (?) that is what is normally said. But if you find a personality that combines all in one - what you will say? miracle- yahi na ! but miracles do happen and certainly I know one who combines all the above traits.
She is really beautiful and intellegent n intellectual and combines all the traits described above. her beauty is of different kind- stunning n awsome. She is a very friendly person who always keeps others happy.u can learn many things from her. U will come to know once u become closer to her, till then u will think she is so so ..but she is not. she takes everything coolly.
Personality, to be attractive, must have in it the element which makes it plain that the particular quality which creates it is not used against our fellowmen. We may admire a powerful personality, but if we feel that its power is used selfishly, we fear it while we admire it. We may admire a charming person, let us say a woman, but if we feel that the charm is a veil for faithlessness we dislike her, much though we admire the charm.
The average girl would rather have beauty than brains because she knows the average man can see much better than he can think. But i know she never display her beauty to her advantage. That makes her very very special.SHE IS a SWEET N CUTE FRIEND OF MINE
Your beautiful eyes stare right into my .. eyes
and sometimes i think of you late at night
I don't know why
She is really beautiful and intellegent n intellectual and combines all the traits described above. her beauty is of different kind- stunning n awsome. She is a very friendly person who always keeps others happy.u can learn many things from her. U will come to know once u become closer to her, till then u will think she is so so ..but she is not. she takes everything coolly.
Personality, to be attractive, must have in it the element which makes it plain that the particular quality which creates it is not used against our fellowmen. We may admire a powerful personality, but if we feel that its power is used selfishly, we fear it while we admire it. We may admire a charming person, let us say a woman, but if we feel that the charm is a veil for faithlessness we dislike her, much though we admire the charm.
The average girl would rather have beauty than brains because she knows the average man can see much better than he can think. But i know she never display her beauty to her advantage. That makes her very very special.SHE IS a SWEET N CUTE FRIEND OF MINE
Your beautiful eyes stare right into my .. eyes
and sometimes i think of you late at night
I don't know why
Monday, 23 November 2009
Test Cricket - are they becoming boring ?
The recently concluded test match between India and Srilanka at Ahmedabad has once again ignited the debate about future of test cricket."Test Cricket is no longer favorite of crowds"- this view is now universally accepted.50-50 and 20-20 have replace it. Now if I say that TEST CRICKET IS PLAYED FOR RECORDS AND NOT FOR ENTERTAINING CROWD - it will not be wrong. Some traditonalists may disagree but I have many reasons to say that the Test Cricket is fast becoming obsolete and boring these days.
In comparision to ODIs and T20s there are not many spectators in the ground to watch the dull and lifeless proceedings of a test match. I often see players playing at their leisure, blocking each ball or leaving out the outswingers, which would have easily been despatch our of the ground by our own Shewag or Yousuf Pathan, if it were either ODI or T20. There is hardly any enthusiasm in the field either.
The players looked tired while changing sides. Just lethargy all round. Even the two batsmen in the middle hardly show any enthusiasm or interest. It appeared that they were playing not for the crowd but to cement their place in the side or for records. fanfare and enthusiasm are completely lacking in test matches.
In the past, People used to wait in que right from the middle of the night to get their tickets, some sleeping on the platform and some even used to bring blankets with them along with food. That was the craze or enthusiasm for the game. When the match started from the first day onwards the stadium would be full to the capacity for all the five days, barring a day break in-between.
When India and Pakistan played either in Lahore of Wankhede Stadium in Mumbai, there was jubiliation all over. It was a festive like atmosphere in both the countries. Everyone used to be concerned about the match whether he is a small boy or 80 years old man or woman. Such was the enthusiasm and importance attached to the Test Cricket those good olden days. Now today every thing has changed.
First it was the advent of One Day World Cup matches staged in England or Kerry Packers colour revolution that all brought changes to the game of cricket. But then, Test matches still continued to draw a huge crowd, as there were very few ODIs and more Test matches played.
Then the frequency of ODI matches brought new flavour to the entire game of cricket. The instant cricket or big hitting game produced many young cricketers who became instant heroes. The game became popular and drew more and more sponsors. The game was commercialised. From a dull Test match to a very vibrant game of ODI all changed the interest of the people. Test cricket started waning.
Then came another shortened form of game. It was T20 matches. It became still popular and drew the youth to the game. Never before opportunities wide opened for the upcoming cricketers. The young and old started enjoying this game. This shorteened form of game produced many heroes and people started identifying themselves with them. This sent Test cricket to the background further. The T20 World Cups and IPL all hastened the demise of the interest in Test cricket.
Those days, people had enough time to watch the game of Test Cricket. But then the changes in the very form of the game was responsible for making the game of Test cricket a dull and boring affair.
Notwithstanding the records made or broken, Test Cricket is at a crucial stage. It would be sooner than later, the Test Cricket would be slowly disbanded. There would be more ODIs and T20s than Test Cricket. After some time, even ODI would also loose its sheen giving way to abridged T20 form of game. It would not be a surprise or wonder, if this game is further reduced or shortened as T10 matches.
People cannot waste their time going to Test venues to watch a dull game for four or five days, notwithstanding the result it would produce or the performance of the individuals. But then enough is enough. It's time to say good-bye to Test Cricket. Sooner it is better for the game.
In comparision to ODIs and T20s there are not many spectators in the ground to watch the dull and lifeless proceedings of a test match. I often see players playing at their leisure, blocking each ball or leaving out the outswingers, which would have easily been despatch our of the ground by our own Shewag or Yousuf Pathan, if it were either ODI or T20. There is hardly any enthusiasm in the field either.
The players looked tired while changing sides. Just lethargy all round. Even the two batsmen in the middle hardly show any enthusiasm or interest. It appeared that they were playing not for the crowd but to cement their place in the side or for records. fanfare and enthusiasm are completely lacking in test matches.
In the past, People used to wait in que right from the middle of the night to get their tickets, some sleeping on the platform and some even used to bring blankets with them along with food. That was the craze or enthusiasm for the game. When the match started from the first day onwards the stadium would be full to the capacity for all the five days, barring a day break in-between.
When India and Pakistan played either in Lahore of Wankhede Stadium in Mumbai, there was jubiliation all over. It was a festive like atmosphere in both the countries. Everyone used to be concerned about the match whether he is a small boy or 80 years old man or woman. Such was the enthusiasm and importance attached to the Test Cricket those good olden days. Now today every thing has changed.
First it was the advent of One Day World Cup matches staged in England or Kerry Packers colour revolution that all brought changes to the game of cricket. But then, Test matches still continued to draw a huge crowd, as there were very few ODIs and more Test matches played.
Then the frequency of ODI matches brought new flavour to the entire game of cricket. The instant cricket or big hitting game produced many young cricketers who became instant heroes. The game became popular and drew more and more sponsors. The game was commercialised. From a dull Test match to a very vibrant game of ODI all changed the interest of the people. Test cricket started waning.
Then came another shortened form of game. It was T20 matches. It became still popular and drew the youth to the game. Never before opportunities wide opened for the upcoming cricketers. The young and old started enjoying this game. This shorteened form of game produced many heroes and people started identifying themselves with them. This sent Test cricket to the background further. The T20 World Cups and IPL all hastened the demise of the interest in Test cricket.
Those days, people had enough time to watch the game of Test Cricket. But then the changes in the very form of the game was responsible for making the game of Test cricket a dull and boring affair.
Notwithstanding the records made or broken, Test Cricket is at a crucial stage. It would be sooner than later, the Test Cricket would be slowly disbanded. There would be more ODIs and T20s than Test Cricket. After some time, even ODI would also loose its sheen giving way to abridged T20 form of game. It would not be a surprise or wonder, if this game is further reduced or shortened as T10 matches.
People cannot waste their time going to Test venues to watch a dull game for four or five days, notwithstanding the result it would produce or the performance of the individuals. But then enough is enough. It's time to say good-bye to Test Cricket. Sooner it is better for the game.
Thursday, 19 November 2009
Mind taking a break and relationship
Resuming blogging after a short break... Brain cells tire out thinking a lot of topics and weighing the advantages of one topic against the other! So they badly needed a break!
After a long long time, I'm having something that I never had for years - a blank mind. Absolutely deprived of any thoughts, any purpose and any confusions...
Some kind of thought always occupies my mind - be it philosophy, spirituality, family, relationships, self analysis, work, career, something... something has always been there. I always had something to say... something to share.. But now a days I do feel that my mind is a bit blank, devoid of any serious thinking..
Sometimes the confusing problems come back to the mind, and I become further frustrated. Thinking about something else for a while relieves the mind from the pressures of the problems.
When I say thinking about something relieves me, it only means the beautiful relationship which I have developed. I know that thinking about this makes me cool , n calm. I just think about this relationship and I feel that ecerything is fine for me , that this relationship reiterates that I have lost nothing , that so much good things are waiting for me. so no doubt I am lucky having such a perfect friend.
It is not easy to develop perfect relationship. In my view relationship can be lifelasting only when both partners know the weakness of each other and are even ready for a fight on issues they differ. Such "fighting" only strenghtens their bonding of friendship.
Many relationships fail because one person tries to overpower another, or demands too much. People in love tend to think that love will conquer all and their partner will change the bad habits . It is easier to reshape a mountain or a river than a person's character. Thus, having high expectation will cause disappointment and unpleasantness.
It would be less painful to change ourselves and lower our expectations..
"Good Life starts only when you stop wanting a better One"
After a long long time, I'm having something that I never had for years - a blank mind. Absolutely deprived of any thoughts, any purpose and any confusions...
Some kind of thought always occupies my mind - be it philosophy, spirituality, family, relationships, self analysis, work, career, something... something has always been there. I always had something to say... something to share.. But now a days I do feel that my mind is a bit blank, devoid of any serious thinking..
Sometimes the confusing problems come back to the mind, and I become further frustrated. Thinking about something else for a while relieves the mind from the pressures of the problems.
When I say thinking about something relieves me, it only means the beautiful relationship which I have developed. I know that thinking about this makes me cool , n calm. I just think about this relationship and I feel that ecerything is fine for me , that this relationship reiterates that I have lost nothing , that so much good things are waiting for me. so no doubt I am lucky having such a perfect friend.
It is not easy to develop perfect relationship. In my view relationship can be lifelasting only when both partners know the weakness of each other and are even ready for a fight on issues they differ. Such "fighting" only strenghtens their bonding of friendship.
Many relationships fail because one person tries to overpower another, or demands too much. People in love tend to think that love will conquer all and their partner will change the bad habits . It is easier to reshape a mountain or a river than a person's character. Thus, having high expectation will cause disappointment and unpleasantness.
It would be less painful to change ourselves and lower our expectations..
"Good Life starts only when you stop wanting a better One"
Sunday, 15 November 2009
Life Moments
EVERY MOMENTS OF LIFE SHOULD BE ENJOYED- This has become mantra of the day. In my view "enjoying" life is a new concept perhaps borrowed from west. If we look at our own culture, we will find that more importance has been given to live life in a disciplined and dignified manner then to simply explore the ways for enjoyment. as per Hindu mythology the human life is also seen as four Ashramas .They are Brahmacharya, Grihasthya, Vanaprastha and Sanyasa. The first quarter of one's life, brahmacharya is spent in celibate, sober and pure contemplation of life's secrets under a Guru, building up body and mind for the responsibilities of life. Grihastya is the householder's stage, in which one marries and satisfies kama and artha within a married life and professional career. Vanaprastha is gradual detachment from the material world, ostensibly giving over duties to one's sons and daughters, and making holy pilgrimages. Finally, in sanyasa, the individual goes off into seclusion, to find God through meditation and peacefully shed the body for the next life. But that is mythology - no longer valid in todays technolgy driven world. there is nothing wrong if we desire pleasure in our life.
But if some things make life pleasant, others make it miserable.Every day of our lives are filled with miracles large or small. Also, every day of our lives will find work, hardship and pain.This is life. Some days are joyful while others bring on tears of sadness.we should embrace each day with humility.We should make up your mind to be happy. Find pleasure in simple things. What I mean that we should not always strive for enjoying the life but should always try to do something meaningful in life.
Often we are fearful of criticism. But the fact is you can’t please everyone. So don’t let your critics run and ruin your life. The more you accomplish, the more resistance you will meet. Don’t borrow trouble. Imaginary problems are heavier than actual ones.
There are many ways we can make our life meaningful like:
Avoid people who make you unhappy.
Don’t hold postmortems– over your mistakes.
Do what you can for those less fortunate than you;
especially for those who have blessed your life
Keep busy. A busy person doesn’t have time to be very unhappy.
One should be strong enough to face this world everyday with confidence.At the sametime one should know his/her weakness so that they can make them strong enough to handle their problems. One should be willing to share his/her joys with their loved ones as by sharing these small moments the happiness get doubles.
And above all one should love the person who loves him/her and should give other the same respect
Work hard for those things you want in life....then take pride in your accomplishments and thank God for His help.
If you are unhappy, look inside yourself because that is where you will find true happiness. You may not be able to change circumstances but you CAN control how you handle them.
Be content with who you are and what you have but always strive for more.
Be clean.....of mind....heart......soul.....and body of course.
This is the way can really LIVE LIVELY every moments of life. And this is the real enjoyment!
But if some things make life pleasant, others make it miserable.Every day of our lives are filled with miracles large or small. Also, every day of our lives will find work, hardship and pain.This is life. Some days are joyful while others bring on tears of sadness.we should embrace each day with humility.We should make up your mind to be happy. Find pleasure in simple things. What I mean that we should not always strive for enjoying the life but should always try to do something meaningful in life.
Often we are fearful of criticism. But the fact is you can’t please everyone. So don’t let your critics run and ruin your life. The more you accomplish, the more resistance you will meet. Don’t borrow trouble. Imaginary problems are heavier than actual ones.
There are many ways we can make our life meaningful like:
Avoid people who make you unhappy.
Don’t hold postmortems– over your mistakes.
Do what you can for those less fortunate than you;
especially for those who have blessed your life
Keep busy. A busy person doesn’t have time to be very unhappy.
One should be strong enough to face this world everyday with confidence.At the sametime one should know his/her weakness so that they can make them strong enough to handle their problems. One should be willing to share his/her joys with their loved ones as by sharing these small moments the happiness get doubles.
And above all one should love the person who loves him/her and should give other the same respect
Work hard for those things you want in life....then take pride in your accomplishments and thank God for His help.
If you are unhappy, look inside yourself because that is where you will find true happiness. You may not be able to change circumstances but you CAN control how you handle them.
Be content with who you are and what you have but always strive for more.
Be clean.....of mind....heart......soul.....and body of course.
This is the way can really LIVE LIVELY every moments of life. And this is the real enjoyment!
Friday, 6 November 2009
Anger n love
While a man was polshing his new car , his four year old son picked a stone and scratched lines on the side of car . In anger , the man took the child's hand & hit it many times , not realizing he was using a wrench .
At the hospital, the child lost all his fingers due to multiple fractures . When the child saw his father with painful eyes he asked 'dad when will be my fingers grow back ? That man was so hurt & speechless. He went back to the car and kicked it many times . Devastated by his own actions sitting the front of the car he looked at the scratches and realised that child had written 'LOVE YOU DAD ' Next day that man commited suicide.
Anger and Love has no limits .......always remember that things are to be used & people are to be loved . But the problem is in today's world is that ,people are being used & things are loved ................
It is said that for every minute you are angry you lose sixty seconds of happiness. sometime anger can really damage you horrible .
तो क्या हमें एकबार अपने दिल से नहीं सोंचना चाहिए कि क्रोध हमेशा नुकसान ही पहुंचता है और साथ ही साथ रिश्तों को हमें हमेशा मजबूत करना चाहिए. जब मै सासाराम में रहता हूँ तो इसपर अक्सर चिंतन और मनन करता रहता हूँ
Now just one more:
girl and guy were speeding over 100 mph on a motorcycle)
Girl: Slow down. Im scared.
Guy: No this is fun.
Girl: No its not. Please, its too scary!
Guy: Then tell me you love me.
Girl: Fine, I love you. Slow down!
Guy: Now give me a BIG hug. (Girl hugs him)
Guy: Can you take my helmet off and put it on? Its bugging me.
In the paper the next day: A motorcycle had crashed into a building
because of break failure. Two people were on the motorcycle, but only
one survived.
The truth was that halfway down the road, the guy realized that his
breaks broke, but he didn't want the girl know about it . Instead, he had her say she loved him, but felt her hug one last time, then he gave his
helmet to her so she would live even though it meant he would die.
if u r really loving someone frm ur heart.....
At the hospital, the child lost all his fingers due to multiple fractures . When the child saw his father with painful eyes he asked 'dad when will be my fingers grow back ? That man was so hurt & speechless. He went back to the car and kicked it many times . Devastated by his own actions sitting the front of the car he looked at the scratches and realised that child had written 'LOVE YOU DAD ' Next day that man commited suicide.
Anger and Love has no limits .......always remember that things are to be used & people are to be loved . But the problem is in today's world is that ,people are being used & things are loved ................
It is said that for every minute you are angry you lose sixty seconds of happiness. sometime anger can really damage you horrible .
तो क्या हमें एकबार अपने दिल से नहीं सोंचना चाहिए कि क्रोध हमेशा नुकसान ही पहुंचता है और साथ ही साथ रिश्तों को हमें हमेशा मजबूत करना चाहिए. जब मै सासाराम में रहता हूँ तो इसपर अक्सर चिंतन और मनन करता रहता हूँ
Now just one more:
girl and guy were speeding over 100 mph on a motorcycle)
Girl: Slow down. Im scared.
Guy: No this is fun.
Girl: No its not. Please, its too scary!
Guy: Then tell me you love me.
Girl: Fine, I love you. Slow down!
Guy: Now give me a BIG hug. (Girl hugs him)
Guy: Can you take my helmet off and put it on? Its bugging me.
In the paper the next day: A motorcycle had crashed into a building
because of break failure. Two people were on the motorcycle, but only
one survived.
The truth was that halfway down the road, the guy realized that his
breaks broke, but he didn't want the girl know about it . Instead, he had her say she loved him, but felt her hug one last time, then he gave his
helmet to her so she would live even though it meant he would die.
if u r really loving someone frm ur heart.....
Saturday, 24 October 2009
Controlloing Emotions
Last nite i saw the ' Big Boss' programme on TV and the interview with KRK was really very interesting. He has been driven out of big boss house due to his violent behavior. AB rightly said that it is very important for us to control our emotions, particularly negative ones. Display of such emotions made us to loose everything. Emotions like Anger, Fear, Guilt, Depression, Resentment, Bitterness, Disappointment, Discouragement, not listening to others view, trying to force your view on others , all are really detrimental to a persons growth.
It is a fact that thousands of years ago we were threatened by wild animals who wanted to eat us. Now we more often feel threatened by other human beings, either psychologically or physically. And due to this we develop such emotions. Among these emotions anger is a very intense emotion. It can be used either in productive or counter-productive ways. It can lengthen or shorten our lives. It is like electricity. It is known that we feel strongly about something. As with every emotion, it has a lesson for us. It can help us become more aware of what we feel strongly about and which emotional needs are important to us. Sometimes we become angry after being provoked. But even in such situation, anger may not be always useful. Sometimes it may frightened your “enemy” but prolong expression of anger may even lead to serious health problems.
Some times we feel alone, lonely, rejected, discouraged, uninspired, used, abused, unproductive, misunderstood, etc. Together, all of these feelings drain our energy, kill our motivation, leading to development of depression. Irony is that depression do not led us to anywhere , in fact make things more complicated. In such situations we should take recourse to meditation and also support of our friends n loved ones including family members.
Lifetime relationships teach us lifetime lessons, our job is to accept the lesson, love the person and put what we have learned to use in other areas of our life. For this we must build a solid emotional foundation.
It is a fact that thousands of years ago we were threatened by wild animals who wanted to eat us. Now we more often feel threatened by other human beings, either psychologically or physically. And due to this we develop such emotions. Among these emotions anger is a very intense emotion. It can be used either in productive or counter-productive ways. It can lengthen or shorten our lives. It is like electricity. It is known that we feel strongly about something. As with every emotion, it has a lesson for us. It can help us become more aware of what we feel strongly about and which emotional needs are important to us. Sometimes we become angry after being provoked. But even in such situation, anger may not be always useful. Sometimes it may frightened your “enemy” but prolong expression of anger may even lead to serious health problems.
Some times we feel alone, lonely, rejected, discouraged, uninspired, used, abused, unproductive, misunderstood, etc. Together, all of these feelings drain our energy, kill our motivation, leading to development of depression. Irony is that depression do not led us to anywhere , in fact make things more complicated. In such situations we should take recourse to meditation and also support of our friends n loved ones including family members.
Lifetime relationships teach us lifetime lessons, our job is to accept the lesson, love the person and put what we have learned to use in other areas of our life. For this we must build a solid emotional foundation.
Friday, 16 October 2009
Is Diwali for everyone?
Crores of Indians in the country and abroad are celebrating the festival of light, Diwali , this Saturday.It's the time of the year for the near and dearones to come together to rejoice and exchange gifts and sweets to mark this festival which commemorates the victory of good over evil. Diwali symbolizes the victory of light over darkness. Celebrated joyously all over the country, it is also a festival of wealth and prosperity.
But is it true that Diwali creates sparkle in everyone's life? NO, rightly No, when we are competing with neighnours in having more decoration , more crackers etc, we fail that some of our "neighbours" are still struggling for food. For them Diwali or no diwali , day remains the same.
Last week I just read an interview with A NRI CEO who is heading brook bond brand of tea in England. He rightly pointed out that with exception of TATA , business houses in India are doing little towards social sector in comparision to their western counterparts. He said that TATAs are their competitor in business but inspiration in social sector.he is planning charity work on a big scale soon in India.
Now the bigger question is - how should rich behave in a poor country?
Last week two newsitems are noteworthy:four Indian CEOs made it to the Forbes list of 10 wealthiest CEOs of the world and second one: naxals in Jharkhand beheaded a Police officers and some 200 naxals attacked Police station in Jharkhand. These two events should make us to think something beyond normal. It is a fact that almost half of India lives on less then 40 Rs a day!
One of our cabinet minister has suggested that CEOs should not take 'vulgar' salary. True many rich Indians indeed believe in vulgar display of wealth and arrogance during festival times and also during marriage time.And when poor are no more content with their Godgiven poorness they resort to violence in form of naxals.
Growing eliticism is not good for this country. It is duty of riches of this country to empower the poors by creating space for their growth. They should part with their fortune for this purpose.Meagre charity will not work. What needed is empowerment work on a large scale.
Otherwise 'India' and 'Bharat' will remain on collision path.
But is it true that Diwali creates sparkle in everyone's life? NO, rightly No, when we are competing with neighnours in having more decoration , more crackers etc, we fail that some of our "neighbours" are still struggling for food. For them Diwali or no diwali , day remains the same.
Last week I just read an interview with A NRI CEO who is heading brook bond brand of tea in England. He rightly pointed out that with exception of TATA , business houses in India are doing little towards social sector in comparision to their western counterparts. He said that TATAs are their competitor in business but inspiration in social sector.he is planning charity work on a big scale soon in India.
Now the bigger question is - how should rich behave in a poor country?
Last week two newsitems are noteworthy:four Indian CEOs made it to the Forbes list of 10 wealthiest CEOs of the world and second one: naxals in Jharkhand beheaded a Police officers and some 200 naxals attacked Police station in Jharkhand. These two events should make us to think something beyond normal. It is a fact that almost half of India lives on less then 40 Rs a day!
One of our cabinet minister has suggested that CEOs should not take 'vulgar' salary. True many rich Indians indeed believe in vulgar display of wealth and arrogance during festival times and also during marriage time.And when poor are no more content with their Godgiven poorness they resort to violence in form of naxals.
Growing eliticism is not good for this country. It is duty of riches of this country to empower the poors by creating space for their growth. They should part with their fortune for this purpose.Meagre charity will not work. What needed is empowerment work on a large scale.
Otherwise 'India' and 'Bharat' will remain on collision path.
Sunday, 11 October 2009
Working with passion
Follow your passion, and success will follow you - that's a very nice saying. And i do believe that it is only passion which makes you emotive. Emotive towards your work, emotive towards a person or a situation. it is not that I donot associate passion with my new place of posting,. I never mean that that place is not GOOD. that would be humiliating for persons living there. When you work with passion,you exhibit high energy and the ability to put 100 % focus on moving something forward no matter what the obstacles are. Even this energy is contagious and most of us are attracted towards this.
What I feel is that working environment there does not make me excited and so working with passion is difficult there.I just wanted to keep the momentum of my work going , which unfortunately has come to a standstill.I really do need to pursue my dreams instead of just being willing to accept any kind of thing in this organisation.That do make development of some negative feelings.
I know that the magic about working with passion is that it usually only takes a small belief in yourself to start making things happen.Everytime on the eve of my visit to that place I think that What is one small step I could take to move myself forward and begin working with passion tomorrow?
and what are the obstacles standing in my way?
There I am one man army.but ath sametime it is also said that one person with passion is better than forty people merely interested.That makes me to think that as of now I have no option but to work with passion in my job. I do need help of my loved one to keep me going.
What I feel is that working environment there does not make me excited and so working with passion is difficult there.I just wanted to keep the momentum of my work going , which unfortunately has come to a standstill.I really do need to pursue my dreams instead of just being willing to accept any kind of thing in this organisation.That do make development of some negative feelings.
I know that the magic about working with passion is that it usually only takes a small belief in yourself to start making things happen.Everytime on the eve of my visit to that place I think that What is one small step I could take to move myself forward and begin working with passion tomorrow?
and what are the obstacles standing in my way?
There I am one man army.but ath sametime it is also said that one person with passion is better than forty people merely interested.That makes me to think that as of now I have no option but to work with passion in my job. I do need help of my loved one to keep me going.
Friday, 9 October 2009
Household works by husband
Once you get married, you become a complete man and you have a better half in the name of your spouse. Traditionaly, as they start their family life, it is the duty of wife alone to take care of entire household works including rearing and caring of children.At the same time, after the marriage according to the employment status and position of a spouse his or her role in the family varies. Suppose if the husband is employed and his spouse is a house wife, their role in the family gets divided - Husband by virtue of his employment earns for the family, his wife in the role of a house wife attends to the house hold duties like cooking , cleaning, washing and other house works. Their roles are clear cut and well defined.
In the modern days, since the economic burden is more pinching than any other burden, it has become customary to seek an employed girl as spouse. After getting married, since both spouses are employed, some problems do appear with respect to sharing household work.Many men use their higher income as an excuse not to do housework. They claim that because they make more money, they should be excluded from household chores.Men frequently claim they are too tired or stressed to help after spending long hours at the office. They need to relax when they get home, not to start preparing dinner or mingling with the children.Often, men will simply say they don’t know how to do housework to escape doing it. Well, many of them genuinely don’t know how but that’s only because they are too lazy to learn it.Although it do appear unfair but this has been a practice in our societies.
Last few days ,I faced a situation where I have to almost single handedly manage all the household works alone. I honestly admit it is really very difficult to set house in order, prepare children for school, arranging for their food after they return from school, bathing them etc.But at the same time it is very satisfying too. I feel that even if a wife is not working,she works just as hard at home, if not more. While the husband works eight hours a day, she works 24 hours. So it isn’t fair for her to do everything at home.
Life is not one way traffic. Once you get married, you become a complete man and you have a better half in the name of your spouse.if both of you are employed, your sharing of housework with your spouse is a must and according to the nature of your work, availability of time, proximity of your offices etc should be taken into account.At the same time there should not be any hard n fast rule.Honest realisation of situation is only required.
I remember a study in which wives were asked, which kind of husband they would prefer- a husband who would “make the bed” or a husband who would “perform better in bed". Surprisingly majority preferred the first one!
In the modern days, since the economic burden is more pinching than any other burden, it has become customary to seek an employed girl as spouse. After getting married, since both spouses are employed, some problems do appear with respect to sharing household work.Many men use their higher income as an excuse not to do housework. They claim that because they make more money, they should be excluded from household chores.Men frequently claim they are too tired or stressed to help after spending long hours at the office. They need to relax when they get home, not to start preparing dinner or mingling with the children.Often, men will simply say they don’t know how to do housework to escape doing it. Well, many of them genuinely don’t know how but that’s only because they are too lazy to learn it.Although it do appear unfair but this has been a practice in our societies.
Last few days ,I faced a situation where I have to almost single handedly manage all the household works alone. I honestly admit it is really very difficult to set house in order, prepare children for school, arranging for their food after they return from school, bathing them etc.But at the same time it is very satisfying too. I feel that even if a wife is not working,she works just as hard at home, if not more. While the husband works eight hours a day, she works 24 hours. So it isn’t fair for her to do everything at home.
Life is not one way traffic. Once you get married, you become a complete man and you have a better half in the name of your spouse.if both of you are employed, your sharing of housework with your spouse is a must and according to the nature of your work, availability of time, proximity of your offices etc should be taken into account.At the same time there should not be any hard n fast rule.Honest realisation of situation is only required.
I remember a study in which wives were asked, which kind of husband they would prefer- a husband who would “make the bed” or a husband who would “perform better in bed". Surprisingly majority preferred the first one!