Turning 50 year old !

Celebrating 20th anniversary of my 30th Birthday. Wow ! What a way to describe the 50th birthday. No doubt , Completing 50 years of  life certainly is momentous, a big milestone. It is time of celebration and also a time  to evaluate what is important and what is not, in next part of my life.

         I can feel happy, for the simple reason that I am healthy. Living in this world, full of pollution and also with not so good food habit,it is by no means a big achievement if you turn 50 and you are not on  any single daily dosage of any kind of drug. That makes me feel happy, satisfied and it is inspiring for me also. So I take a pledege today that 50 onwards, it will be my duty to take full care of my body by increasing physcical activities and also with balanced diet.

        Turning 50 is a great occassion. I know , one part of my life has ended and I have entered into second and final part of my life. It gives me  a chance to look back into my life, my achievements, my failures , both have contributed a lot in shaping my life. I know, I have a number of great and good friends , who have stood with me in every season of life, they have done a lot for me, I lose my words when I try to explian their role in my well being. THERE IS NOTHING BETTER THEN A TRUE FRIEND IN YOUR LIFE.

         I also know , I have a bunch of enemies too. Their role I can't underestimate..It is said that however bad a man, he will have some friends: however good, he will have some enemies.I know, You can't have only friends in your life, some Nonfriends or enemies are always in your life.

       As I grow old, I think objectives of my life may be changing but it is my duty to make it more purposeful and beautiful.

       At 50 now, I find life richer and fuller than ever, and I can still run four K.M. any time, (and , in lighter vein, hope still today some young women can hit me !! :-) ).

       I know I am moving towards something very good, and MOST IMORTANT we all go there anyway.

      So it is party time for me and all my friends ... Let us enjoy !!

Hoil at Siwan

           Returned from my home at Siwan on 29th March after celebrating Holi there with family. Last time when i celebrated holi at my home in siwan was in the year 2003 . That time I celebrated this festival with my Father. With the death of my father in 2004 , we never went there during festival days. So much sentiments are attached with that my house , but could not 'dare' to go there in holi .

It is a fact that it is only holi when I tried every year to be with my parents at Siwan or my village. I remember that barring a few (One or Two) , every year I made it a rule to be with them during holi. This 'rule' didnot apply on other festivals like Diwali etc.
My father was such a towering personality that entire area revolved around him for every kind of advice. He was so active in social works that each and everyone of area essentially used to greet him in holi by paying a visit to my house.
That is the main reason that after the sad demise of my father , that I thought me and my mother , my wife, children will not be able to remain normal at siwan during holi.
Holi at siwan without my father is very disturbing, but life has to move on. So after nine years of death of my father , I decided to go to siwan during holi and feel his omnipresent presence at the home which he had built with so much passion.

It was an emotional visit. I liked and enjoyed it .


"When life gives you a hundred reasons to cry, show life that you have a thousand reasons to smile. "

Live Life , Love life

Life events may not be always as per your wishes, It will sometimes shock you, sometimes make you feel guilty, sometimes just confuse you, but to keep balance and displaying a positive state of mind is absolutely necessery. And  I have to do that.  Some quotes which are really inspiring for me :


Dream what you want to dream;/ Go where you want to go;/ Be what you want to be,/ Because you have only one life/ And one chance to do all the things/ You want to do./
May you have enough happiness to make you sweet,/ Enough trials to make you strong,/ Enough sorrow to keep you human and/ Enough hope to make you happy./
The happiest of people don't necessarily/ Have the best of everything;/ They just make the most of/ Everything that comes along their way./
The brightest future will always/ Be based on a forgotten past;/
You can't go forward in life until/ You let go of your past failures and heartaches./
 When you were born, you were crying/ And everyone around you was smiling/ Live your life so at the end/ You're the one who is smiling and everyone/ Around you is crying.

So Live life and love life ---this is the only way 

As this year comes to an end ........

         As the year 2010 is coming to end, I am thinking and thinking.... and no doubt this year has been one of the most eventful year in my life. some very happy moments as well as some sad moments which made me feel low like anything.I’m not going to make a list of everything wonderful or sad that happened, but I will say that
the people I met at my workplace (Sasaram) were so nice, the relationships I nurtured here at Patna, I feel really lucky.
Sometime I acted in an unbalanced manner, sometime it appeared that life is hell for me;I spent some time being sad and feeling guilty and feeling stupid and thinking i had made the wrong decisions, but as year passes by everthing started to go in my way. I just started feeling  happy and complete, and knowing i was doing they right thing…
And finally I did have some magic moments , simply unparalleled moments of my life... still echos of that make me ecstatic---- an experiance i never have in my life.
And fot that very reason year 2010 will be a special year for me...

Emotions in Life

        Life is like an 'unsolved' puzzle. No one can define what life is because it is a very complex thing.
It is something that makes you happy and proud at times and makes you feel so low at times that you say to yourself, "What hell is this life!"
        In Life, in every moment, something new happens; something that you never expected, something that you were waiting from a long while to happen and something you were expecting to happen. It is a combination of happiness, sorrow, joy, love, anger, enjoyment, loneliness, fear, excitement and many other emotions.
      The definition of the word life can't be completed without using the word emotions. Some people work in emotions whereas others work with emotions. So it's very important to understand how people are using their emotions. If they are letting emotions get control over them, then they'll be dragged by others and situations all the time.But, if he is controlling his emotions in a proper way, then no one will ever have control over him.
      That is why undrstanding EQ or Emotional Quotient is very important. I just try to control my emotions to a level where things or situations remains under my control. At the same time I believe that displaying emotions is very important in a person's life , simply because it allows others to understand you in proper perspective. However it is also important to know that where and in front of whom you are displaying your emotions. Some persons may misuse your emotions and exploit you. So it is always better to supress your real emotions in front of such persons.
     The way a person uses his emotions is what we call attitude. Someone has correctly said, "Your attitude determines your altitude in life".
      Attitude is the way an individual uses his emotions and directly related to the psyche of a person. Some people use their emotions in a positive way and some people do it in a negative sense.
      It's up to an individual to decide how he uses his emotions.But whatever it is, it is real fun.

Happy days are back

It is said that Life is like a coin. Pleasure and Pain are the two sides. Only one side is visible at a time. But remember other side is also waiting for it's turn.  So perhaps for me it has just turned positive . After ordeal of more than two and half months , I am back again at my desired place of posting.



Happy days are here again
The skies above are clear again
So let's sing a song of cheer again
Happy days are here again

Altogether shout it now
There's no one
Who can doubt it now
So let's tell the world about it now
Happy days are here again

But I have also learnt a lot of lesson. So much mud slanging, so much dirty politics, so much back biting, unethical game but any how it gets managed and I am today able to show that decision of authority should remain intact with respect to me. At this moment of time, I MUST DECLARE IN UNEQUIVOCAL TERMS THAT I AM HIGHLY OBLIGED TO ALL MY FRIENDS WHO DURING THIS PERIOD OF CRISIS STOOD WITH ME.Without their support this task was simply impossible to achieve.

What's greater then mom's love?
Which pillow is better then Mom lap?
Which company's better then friends?
There are some things in life with no substitutes.
Love them forever.

Why I am sad ?

मन में सवाल बहुत सारे उठते हैं. कभी कभी मन एकदम शांत रहता है और कभी कभी अचानक बेचैन हो जाता है. आखिर क्यों. अगर मै एक समझदार और बुद्धिमान आदमी हूँ तो मैं अपने मन को क्यों नहीं समझा पाता हूँ की मै दुनिया में असंख्य लोगो से ज्यादा सुखी हूँ. भगवान ने मुझे जो दिया है उसमे संतुष्ट रहना चाहिए मुझे . पर शायद मनुष्य को कुछ conflict में रहने की आदत सी हो गई है. दिल और दिमाग में सामंजस्य बैठाने में शायद   इसीलिए मै असमर्थ रहता हूँ.
“You can close your eyes to the things you do not want to see, but you cannot close your heart to the things you do not want to feel." So it pains when people raise a finger on my integrity and my honesty how can one say so/ What right anybody has got to  question my sincerity in any relationship. All my relationships are based on the foundation of mutual acceptance and in my life, yes, in my life till today I have not betrayed anyone with whom I have developed some kind of relationship. that is not my CHARACTER. I might commit some mistakes, I may hurt my loved ones but so far none,  has alleged that Rajiw has betrayed her/him. This I can say with confidence with respect to all with whom I have somekind of relationship. I am not ashamed of any of my relationships. I value all these.
अब अगर कोई character assisnation पर पिल पड़ा है तो मै क्या करू? मुझे दुःख तो बहुत होता है जब मेरे प्रिय के पास ही कोई तमाम तरह की उटपटांग बाते करे और उसके पास सुनने के सिवाई कोई चारा न रहे.
And what is more important is an alert is being sounded againist me . So ridiculous! Had I been working there, in that office, in that section , then may be there would havs been reasons for which people should be warned against my habits, my 'character'. Fact is that I rarely visit there, hardly once in a month. Then why anyone should try make people alert against me.
A perfect relationship is based on solid foundation of mutual underatanding and confidence. Anyone is free to walk out from a relationship anytime. Noone can thrust a relationship on anyone. So no need of any warning. This act is very silly and reflects some deep kind of mental problem that person is suffering.
But I find solace from the fact that  still many people understand me as a nice person.that give me strength to fight.
People say about me- "you are master in managing people"................. ooh................ whether it is complement or comment difficult to understand . Still what I feel is that I make people comfortable before me, simply because I just think, at least for a moment , their point from their angle. And secondly I project myself as a harmless yet cooperative person. that makes people to accept me more readly.

Ek Haadsa

सासाराम जाने के क्रम में दिनांक १२ जुलाई की घटना को भुलाना लगभग असंभव है. जिस टाटा सुमो से मै जा रहा था , पिरो से पहले उसने एक अधेड़ महिला को बीच सड़क पर धक्का मारा , बदकिस्मती से उस महिला की तत्काल उसी क्षण वँही पर मौत हो गई. अपने सामने वीभत्स मौत का नज़ारा मैंने पहली बार देखा . प्राण मुंह को आ गए. ऐसा लगा मानो सारी दुनिया यंही खत्म हो जाएगी . ड्राईवर ने जैसे तैसे गाडी को नियंत्रित किया. हम सभी यात्री चिल्लाए - भागो, भागो , और ड्राईवर गाडी लेकर भाग निकला. पीछे से लोगों का शोर सुने दिया. उस वक़्त हमें अपनी और ड्राईवर की सुरक्षा की चिंता थी. लेकिन मौत से ठीक पहले महिला के चेहरे की भाव भंगिमा , मन से निकलने का नाम ही नहीं ले रही थी.

The kind of emotions displayed on her face- the surprise, the fear, her desperate attemt to escape and finally her helplessness in front of a speeding vehicle, all made me really very sad. Not only sad but also I felt guilty of not doing anything to save her. Should I have forced driver to stop after the accident? But this might have led to lynching of driver by irate mob. I cursed my fate .
मै उस दिन न ठीक से खा सका और न ही रात में ठीक से सो सका. महिला का चेहरा हमेशा मेरे जेहन में कई दिनों तक घूमता रहा. हो सकता हो की उस महिला के बच्चे उसकी प्रतीक्षा कर रहे हो. एक माँ के बिना उनके जीवन की क्या दशा हो सकती है. वो किसी की पत्नी होगी, किसी की बेटी होगी, किसी की बहन होगी, यह भी हो सकता है की किसी के पालने पोषने की पूरी जिम्मेवारी उसी के कंधे पर हो. निश्चित तौर पर एक व्यक्ति के चले जाने के बाद पूरा परिवार विखर सकता है.

 Why sometime fate or bhagya becomes so bad for some people? Why without our own fault , really bad things happen to us? What is life? Why we take so much pain to shape up it when we know that it can end any day without warning, without notice ? Why we plan so much for future?

इस दुर्घटना के ठीक एक दिन बाद मै बीमार पड़ा. कहीं ऐसा तो नहीं की मृत महिला की आत्मा ने मुझे और अन्य यात्रियों को श्राप दिया हो ?उस दुर्घटना में मेरा कोई role नहीं था पर guilty feeling तो हो ही जाती है...................

There is something good in everyday

You wake up in the morning, open your eyes and possibly think, “I need coffee or Tea”. Afterwards you proceed to get ready for your day,  hustling and bustling trying to either get to work or whatever your agenda entails for that day. Somewhere in your subconscious mind, you have already seeded the thought for the day “today is a good day or a bad day”. At that moment, of that thought, your day begins…

Sometimes despite all your engagements , you feel alone. Most people despise being alone.However, there is a power in being able to find contentment in solitude, even if this is a forced one. In my opinion, a great deal of the pain caused by loneliness is due to a lack of control. Solitude is easy to enjoy when it isn’t forced. I think most people enjoy a few hours or even a few days to themselves if their regular lives are full of activity and meaningful people.

So when you lack control over your situation, solitude becomes loneliness. If you feel your isolation wasn’t chosen, and you can’t control it, that exile can be unbearable. The key, in my opinion, to reducing loneliness, is to regain some control.

 For me , the best way to enjoy solitude is by improving my inner world first. I may have had difficulties controlling my loneliness  from the outside, but I could control my inner world so that it would be more pleasant to live in isolation.

I quote what George Washington had said-It is far better to be alone, than to be in bad company.


Of course we can and should keep our composure and happiness regardless of circumstances - regardless of our friends, family and co-workers - regardless of gossip, sarcasm, and negativity.

That is why, I believe “Every day may not be good, but there’s something good in everyday” and with this intention,I  want all my  friends to nurture this positive thought by sharing the smallest good thing that made them happy (even if it was for a while) for that day with me.

Visit to Birpur and Kosi Barrage

In last week of April , I got a chance to visit Birpur and Kosi Barrage. Birpur is a city and a notified area in Supaul district . It is a small town on the Indo-Nepal border near the historic Kosi Barrage on the Kosi River. A visit to this historic Barrage was really a fantastic experiance for me. you feel it , when you come across with fact that how Kosi has been tried to tamed at this point. Kosi - the "curse" of Bihar has only a couple of years ago played havoc with people of this area with unprecedented flood. In this visit some colleagues of our department were with me . Here are some photgraphs taken there:

                                                                       The Kosi Barrage

Kosi water as seen from Barrage

Me with sharma jee

Me alongwith colleagues

Some emerging thoughts

So this month is proving to be much more difficult than previous one. I was thinking about it, and actually that i have been so blessed over the last few years that i haven't really been faced with a lot of emotional things. I'm not sure how to describe it,
 Life changing really.

It's been tough.

But as i sit here and write this entry, I also have a calming feeling in my heart. I have learned a lot of valuable lessons this year.  Some, as collected by me, are as follow:

Love has nothing to do with looks, but everything to do with time, trust, and interest.

Laughing, crying, joy and anger… All are a vital. All make us human.

The greatest truths in life are uncovered with simple, steady awareness.

Bad things do happen to good people.

Uncertainty is caused by a lack of knowledge.

Time heals all wounds… regardless of how you feel right now.

Your health is your life.

Chance is a gift, so act on chance when given the opportunity.

Kindness and hard work will take you further than intelligence.

Carelessness is the root of failure

Purposely ignoring the obvious is like walking backwards toward the enemy.

Taking ownership of failure builds the foundation for success.


It is said that life happens in a blink of an eye, enjoy it, accept the hardships, embrace the joys, and feel every moment... its those feelings that are the sweet stuff of life. Because what is important in life is the LOVE and PEOPLE, and when these two converge.

Waiting for something to happen................

Oof...... I am writing a blog almost after a gap of Two months. Reason is that I am waiting and waitnig something to happen after a mess created by my headquarter and of course some too much engagement , some mental, some physcical............

 Still waiting .................... ah.............................

If pain has to come, may it come quickly. Because I have a life to live, and I need to live it in the best way possible. So why fate is playing a waiting game?

I just remember the great Eienstein who had  said:There are only two ways to live your life. One is as though nothing is a miracle. The other is as though everything is a miracle. I just think that really it is nothing sort of miracle that one day an order is issued and next day you are asked to wait. And this waiting is continued as if it will continue till the end of earth. So what should I think everything is miracle ?  The best way is to adjust and accept all these miracles thrust on you !

People aren't either wicked or noble. They're like chef's salads, with good things and bad things chopped and mixed together in a vinaigrette of confusion and conflict.

Still the hope remains - The very least you can do in your life is figure out what you hope for. And the most you can do is live inside that hope. Not admire it from a distance, but live right in it, under its roof.
 So hope of working with loved one should never die .

Glimpses of Badminton Asia Championship

The Badminton Asia Championship organised at Delhi in the second week of April was more then successfull in many respect. In this tournament I got a chance to see top ranked badmintoton players of the world. No doubt it was a mesmerising event for me. here are some of the photographs taken by me during the tournaments. These have been taken from my camera and they certainly lack professional touch. But anyway I like all of these.

                                   Jwala Gutta and D Viju of India (Top seed in mixed double) in action

                               

Saina Nehwal in action

(Saina with her mother)

Some more action

Cultural Function on final day

Prize distribution

Me in action

Frustrated ?

Recently I attended a meeting of Programme Officers in which our Senior most Officer of the zone also participated. Apart from normal official business, what I observed was that most of participants were frustrated from current state of affairs. The overall view was that we were not getting what we deserve and that we are being cheated by the organisation. The overall work atmosphere has deterioted too much and there is nothing left for us to work or get satisfaction from our work. Our officer gave all of us a patient hearing. (That is his biggest quality. He always gives a person complete chance to air his views openly and completely and he never out rightly reject his subordinate's opinion and even never question a person’s ability to do a work) He agreed with staffmembers views but asserted that we must think what is best for us in the current circumstances. If we become aloof and inert or if we react in an extraordinary manner then Department will justify its act of sidelining us.So we must introspect and try to develop positive attitude even in adverse situation. After all we are being paid handsomely in terms of pay. Many of us may not agree with his views and say that he is preaching because afterall he has already got post and place.

Later on I thought, thought and thought.(After all thinking is my passion). I try to understand what make us frustrated. Most of us are in our Forties and Fifties. This is a period where we are in a position to just look back in our life and evaluate what we have gained or lost in life. Secondly, during this period our Children are in an age where some crucial decisions may have to be taken regarding them. Our parents may be too old and sick. They also expect proper caring. So there is a lot of pressure.

So when we look back and see that we deserve more then what we have got from our life and again we find that our life in the organization has become stagnant, organisation has become a shelter place for jokers, hypocrites right from the top, then we feel being let down and finally frustrated. Sometime we call it Midlife crisis, when we start questioning the very purpose of our life. Midlife crisis involves wide range of feelings such as discontent with life and the lifestyle that may have provided happiness for many years, feeling cheated with people who have developed some kind of bond and have been really close to us, feeling adventurous and wanting to do something completely different and finally questioning the meaning of life.  This led to evaluating the validity of decisions made years before. These feelings at mid-life can occur naturally, or they can be brought on by external factors.


So what is the way out? Should we only cry, cry and cry or should we try to chart out a course to live life happily even in an adverse situation? The answer is obviously second one. This is the only way.

Some thoughts

     SOMETIME I TOO PLUNGE DEEP INTO THINKING MODE. Thinking, thinking and thinking. Sometimes it do happen that your attachment with a person made you too possessive. That is not fair. Sometime you fear something which is nonexistent. I think the best way is to cherish nice memories and ndonot think too much amything about future course of events in any relationship.
you made me smile
you motivated me towards so many matters
you brought out the best in me...

and  it is best for me to stay this way...

obscurely trying to 'see' you  from far
whispering thoughts of you to myself
wishing you well while you're out of sight

IT DOES NOT MATTER WHO YOU ARE

IT DOES NOT MATTER WHO YOU ARE

MAY BE YOU ARE  KING OF THE WORLD

MAY BE YOU ARE MOST DANGEROUS IN THE WORLD

MAY BE YOU ARE AN INDEPENDENT ONE

MAY BE YOU CAN RULE OTHER

EITHER YOU ARE A GENTLEMAN

OR MOST DANGEROUS KILLER OF THE WORLD

BUT THE FACT IS THAT

FOR A CUTE LAMB(BHED)  YOU(SHER) ARE LIKE THIS

Moral: SMALL CREATURE CAN ALSO DEVELOP POWER TO MELT THE HEART OF A MIGHTY ONE !

Valentine day for me

We might have missed the deeper meaning of Valentine's day by singling out romantinc love as focus of this day's ultimate meaning. Love is multifaceted.It is much more, ya, much more then simply emotion.love is a force that can motivate,create,heal and transform the lives of anyone it touches. Many of us have forgotten that this day was created to recognise a saint.

We can see that the story of St. valentine represents many aspects of love.It was his love for God and his commitment to his values that made him to disobey the law.His respect for romantic love is also included in his disobedience.

SO what we should do on this day? in my view - being our own valentine, sharing meaningful and heartful appreciation to all the important persons in our life will be the ideal thing i.e. it should not be limited to our lover only, and finally recommiting to our spiritual values.

We will feel the real joy of life as we release the force of love into our life.

This may seem too simplistic, but love works.

Mirror of our relationship

आज शाम को दिल्ली के लिए निकलना है | जाने कि पूरी तैयारियां कर रहा हूँ पर मन में ख्यालों का बिचरना थमने का नाम नहीं ले रहा है | रिश्तों के बारे में क्या कहा जाए ? मेरी समझ से रिश्ते दर्पण की तरह हैं जिनमें हम अपने आप को देख सकते हैं जैसे कि अभी हम हैं। सम्बंधों से पलायन संभव ही नहीं है। यही संबंध एक दर्पण की तरह होते हैं जिनमें हम अपने आपको देख सकते हैं, हम यह खोज सकते हैं कि हम क्या हैं। इसी दर्पण में हम अपनी प्रतिक्रियाएं, पूर्वधारणाएं, गुस्सा, क्रोध, अपने भय, तनाव, क्षोभ, अकेलापन, शोक, दर्द और दुख को देखते हैं। सम्बंधों के दर्पण में ही हम देख सकते हैं कि हम प्यार करते हैं या प्यार नाम की कोई चीज है ही नहीं। हमें रिश्तों संबंधी प्रश्नों की जाँच करनी चाहिए क्योंकि यही प्रेम का आधार हैं।
प्रेम ऐसी चीज नहीं जिसके बारे में सोचा विचारा जाए, कृत्रिम रूप से उसे उगाया जाए, प्रेम की सुगंध ही उसका परिचय होता है।
जब आपके दिल को चोट पहुंचती है, उस बात को वहीं देख सुन कर खत्म कर देना चाहिए । उसे बोझ की तरह नहीं झेलना चाहिए | An intimate relationship is a particularly close relationship. It is a relationship in which the partiners trust one another very well. Loving is doing anything for that person, thinking about him/her constantly and being able to share your life events with that person. Liking somebody is just like, 'Okay, I like him because of this, this and this, but I don't know if I am ready to be in love with him'.All of us get discouraged from time to time and need a little encouragement and motivation. Sometimes we just need a little pat on the back. Sometimes we need an uplifting and inspiring book to get recharged or listen to a motivational talk to remind us how wonderful life can be and how great it is to be alive. The best place to get encouragement and motivation is from family and friends.

Friendship/Love is not a simple thing

दोस्ती या प्यार जो भी नाम दें यह संच है कि कुछ रिश्ते नायाब होते हैं और इसमें भी कोई दो राय नहीं कि रिश्तों में अपेक्छाओं का होना भी स्वाभाविक है | मन काफी दुखी होता है जब ऐसा नहीं हो पता है | जब कभी आपके इर्द गिर्द का पर्यावरण आपके मनोनुकूल होता है तो सब आपसे अछा वैव्हार करते हैं सब आपकी बड़ाई करते हैं , सब आपका गुणगान करते हैं, सब आपके पास आपके मनलायक बातें भी करते हैं, आपको लगता है सब कुछ बहुत अच्छा है, सब अच्छे हैं और सबके लिए आप अच्छे हैं | In order to run the show everybody just give you all the kinds of importance which you desrve or even desire. And you get a feeling of being in a position of power, doing all the things as per your conveniance. Nothing wrong in this as one should live in present and should enjoy life as it is available to him. But just a minute if the situation turns just unfavourable for you who remains beside you- only those persons who love you by heart, truly by heart. कभी ऐसा भी होता है जब हर कोई आपसे बात तक करने में सावधानी बरतने लगता है, लोग आपसे कन्नी काटने लगते हैं | आपको तंग करने के लिए साजिशें भी रची जाने लगती हैं और हर कोई सहानुभूति तो दर्शा सकता है पर उसके आगे शायद हीं वो कुछ करे | पर जो आपसे प्यार करते हैं वो तमाम बिपरीत परिस्थितिओं में भी आपके साथ रहते हैं, इस बात कि परवाह नहीं करते हैं कि आपके साथ के साहचर्य से लोग नाराज़ भी हो सकते हैं | ऐसे लोग दिल से आपके करीब होते हैं | यह आपका फ़र्ज़ है कि उनकी भावनाओं का ख्याल रखा जाए | भले ही ऐसी स्थिति में आपको कुछ अप्रिय स्थिति का सामना करना पड़े कुछ परेशानिओं का सामना करना पड़े | दिल के रिश्ते साधारण नहीं होते और न ही एक दो दिन में हर किसी के साथ बिकसित हो सकते हैं| If you cant spare some exclusive qualtiy time for your loved one then all the words are simply futile and meaningless. whatever may be the compulsion you are dutybound to act according to wishes of your "Friend". If you are not mentally prepared for this ,better a temporary pause button should be pressed in your relationship .

Rare Personality

PERSONALITY is one of those SPECIAL things which cannot be compressed into a few words. When we think of certain individuals who have GREAT personality, we are at once made aware that no two personalities are alike . One impresses by charm n beauty, another by the sense of power, another by the grace of manner, another by the DEGREE of intellect, and still another by the sense of HUMANITY and finally another exhibiton of positive attitude.But no personality has all of these (?) that is what is normally said. But if you find a personality that combines all in one - what you will say? miracle- yahi na ! but miracles do happen and certainly I know one who combines all the above traits.
She is really beautiful and intellegent n intellectual and combines all the traits described above. her beauty is of different kind- stunning n awsome. She is a very friendly person who always keeps others happy.u can learn many things from her. U will come to know once u become closer to her, till then u will think she is so so ..but she is not. she takes everything coolly.

Personality, to be attractive, must have in it the element which makes it plain that the particular quality which creates it is not used against our fellowmen. We may admire a powerful personality, but if we feel that its power is used selfishly, we fear it while we admire it. We may admire a charming person, let us say a woman, but if we feel that the charm is a veil for faithlessness we dislike her, much though we admire the charm.
The average girl would rather have beauty than brains because she knows the average man can see much better than he can think. But i know she never display her beauty to her advantage. That makes her very very special.SHE IS a SWEET N CUTE FRIEND OF MINE

Your beautiful eyes stare right into my .. eyes

and sometimes i think of you late at night
I don't know why