Once you get married, you become a complete man and you have a better half in the name of your spouse. Traditionaly, as they start their family life, it is the duty of wife alone to take care of entire household works including rearing and caring of children.At the same time, after the marriage according to the employment status and position of a spouse his or her role in the family varies. Suppose if the husband is employed and his spouse is a house wife, their role in the family gets divided - Husband by virtue of his employment earns for the family, his wife in the role of a house wife attends to the house hold duties like cooking , cleaning, washing and other house works. Their roles are clear cut and well defined.
In the modern days, since the economic burden is more pinching than any other burden, it has become customary to seek an employed girl as spouse. After getting married, since both spouses are employed, some problems do appear with respect to sharing household work.Many men use their higher income as an excuse not to do housework. They claim that because they make more money, they should be excluded from household chores.Men frequently claim they are too tired or stressed to help after spending long hours at the office. They need to relax when they get home, not to start preparing dinner or mingling with the children.Often, men will simply say they don’t know how to do housework to escape doing it. Well, many of them genuinely don’t know how but that’s only because they are too lazy to learn it.Although it do appear unfair but this has been a practice in our societies.
Last few days ,I faced a situation where I have to almost single handedly manage all the household works alone. I honestly admit it is really very difficult to set house in order, prepare children for school, arranging for their food after they return from school, bathing them etc.But at the same time it is very satisfying too. I feel that even if a wife is not working,she works just as hard at home, if not more. While the husband works eight hours a day, she works 24 hours. So it isn’t fair for her to do everything at home.
Life is not one way traffic. Once you get married, you become a complete man and you have a better half in the name of your spouse.if both of you are employed, your sharing of housework with your spouse is a must and according to the nature of your work, availability of time, proximity of your offices etc should be taken into account.At the same time there should not be any hard n fast rule.Honest realisation of situation is only required.
I remember a study in which wives were asked, which kind of husband they would prefer- a husband who would “make the bed” or a husband who would “perform better in bed". Surprisingly majority preferred the first one!
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Marriage is 'khakhoring 'but fulfilling state of life!it was written in an article about spouse ‘aapke ghar pahuchane me der hone par aur kahin aisa nahi hoga ki koi aap par buri tarah khijte hue bhi aapkie liye dil se dua kar raha ho’ so true n so touching. Maariage brings two people close on many level. ; it is not just legal or social binding.ek dusre ke liye kya kiya ya doosre ke kiye hue ka hisab kitab isme nahi chalta. If u love your husband or wife u will always feel like doing work which is traditionally consider ‘other one’s job’ in free time.especially when wife is working then husband should be understanding n considerate enuf to help wife in her work, and care for kids.marital satisfaction is not just derived by increasing material possessions in house it is achieved by maintaining support system at home.
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