Developing a relationship is one the most beautiful experience in a person’s life. However sometime, presumptions made on account of past behavior often have negative effect. I have often thought on this aspect a number of times. How we should handle a relationship. We need to ponder over this. Because stress suffered on account of dysfunctional relationships in our professional and personal lives can be a great impediment to our well being. Some of the biggest challenges in relationships come from the fact that most people enter a relationship in order to get something. They're trying to find someone who's going to make them feel good. In reality, the only way a relationship will last is if you see your relationship as a place that you go to give, and not a place that you go to take.
I think too much proximity breeds contempt is a fact as we all live and suffer through over bearing involvement with another individual’s life. Sometimes this suffocates a relationship.
Opposites attract is good reminder when we find ourselves drifting away in a relationship on account of differences of opinion and functional style. To have differences up to a level is a good and healthy thing but they should not go beyond comfort level.
It is also necessary to have regular and good communication . This should involve both speaking and listening, the later should be given much more attention.
Often commitments are made easier then kept. It is better to make fewer commitments but keep them to save the heart from burning.
Problems in relationship occur because each person is concentrating on what is missing in the other person.
It is always better to go for fresh approach in the middle of a conflict because that can be tonic of to tackle bitterness. It is true that all disagreements are results of misunderstanding someone else's level of consciousness
5 comments:
Right ,in todays world of fast communication n easy access we all r able to be in touch with others but handling relationships of all kinds can become a bit mind boggling.Reasons given r quite true and to overcome them is neccessary to find happiness and strengthen relations.First step is to understand yourself,then realise why this relation is important to you;how it supplements you,then have an honest preview of relationship and then finally develop acceptance to another person's identity.
Familiarity breeds contempt but it also helps to gain knowledge n grow tigetherness.Oppsites attract but it can lead to mutual disagreements ;yet two might develop mutual admiration with time!Fights,misunderstanding,differences r all natural in relationships ,but if one is honest to himself n another person n to relation itself ,a way to resolveall these could be found.
Right , but I have written all these at a time when a person having a good relationship with me tried to tarnish my image in a worst kind of manner. What surprises me is the tone and tenure of his attack on my overall personality. Yesterday I was a good person in his eyes and he used to show all kinds of concern for me but all of a sudden his behaviour changed. That is intriguing, and this baffles me most. Honestly, i always try to maintain and nurture a relationship to its maximum.But in todays world this is simply becoming a herculean task.
Right , but I have written all these at a time when a person having a good relationship with me tried to tarnish my image in a worst kind of manner. What surprises me is the tone and tenure of his attack on my overall personality. Yesterday I was a good person in his eyes and he used to show all kinds of concern for me but all of a sudden his behaviour changed. That is intriguing, and this baffles me most. Honestly, i always try to maintain and nurture a relationship to its maximum.But in todays world this is simply becoming a herculean task.
Perhaps ,you forgot that in relationship depth is MORE important than width!!A person may know you only for certain period ,understand u ,n praise you ,wish good for you always.ON other hand a person may be with you for long period of time ,get close ,work together even develop understanding of some kind,yet be good for you only SITUATIONALLY.you can't expect unconditional liking or praise from them.but once you understand them , it is better not to take their praising or tarnishing too seriously.
ANYWAY,you can find consolation in thought that you were not bad mouthed publicly,it was actually a warning to someone else!!
Warning? for what? The big question is why he should warn anyone about me.I no longer work there and certainly there is nothing which should concern him about me creating any kind of problem for him. I fail to understand the basic purpose behind such utterings.
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