The greatest barrier to success is the fear of failure

There comes a time when you have to stand up and shout:
This is me damn it! I look the way I look, think the way I think, feel the way I feel, love the way I love! I am a whole complete package. Take me... or leave me. Accept me - or walk away! Do not try to make me feel like less of a person, just because I don't fit your idea of who I should be and don't try to change me to fit your mold. If I need to change, I alone will make that decision.
When you are strong enough to love yourself 100%, good and bad - you will be amazed at the opportunities that life presents you.This is what called as - The greatest barrier to success is the fear of failure.! There are no failures - just experiences and your reactions to them.
However sometimes I believe that Fear of failure is a minor barrier compared to lack of resources and lack of motivation to work hard enough to gain that success. Any reaction ?

Managing Self

Management = Manage + men + T(technolgy). so it is clear that in management we manage people and Technlolgy. Everyone is talking management now a days. Its importance is increasing day by day. All of us try to manage people at home, at office , at meeting places or practically everywhere. What we miss is that while attempting to manage others , we fail to manage self. We all want to be seen as competent and likable. But sometimes we forget to take care of ourselves and are in danger of maintaining that very image.We are responsible for everything that happens in our life. We should learn to accept total responsibility for ourself. If we do not manage ourself, then we are letting others have control of our Iife.
The prerequisites for successful self management are:

1. Health (this is most important - anything comesafter this)
2. Appearance ( Confident outlook in appearance is must )
3. Knowledge (Nothing new to write about its importance)
4. Attitude (Positive attitude even at worst time)
5. Skill
a. Communiaction skill
b. Presentation skill
c. Leading n Motivating skill
d. Time management skill
e. Creative skill
ALL THE ABOVE SKILLS CAN BE DEVELOPED WITH PROPER PRACTICE, GUIDENCE N PATIENCE. If we acquire all the above attributes, we will be successfull manager without any doubt.

Some additional tips:

+ Look at every new opportunity as an exciting and new-life experience.
+ If you catch yourself worrying about an upcoming task, go ahead and do it now so it no longer is a distraction.
+ Get into the habit of finishing what you start.
+ Give up "waiting time" forever. Have something with you at all times to work on. For example: plan your day, work on a report, or read a page from your book
+ Be a professional who exhibits self-confidence and self-assurance in your potential to complete any task.
+ Avoid worry. The majority of the things you worry about never occur.
+ Agree with yourself in advance that you will have a good attitude toward the upcoming task.
+ Take a chance-calculated risks pay off .
+ Frequently ask, "Is what I am doing right now moving me toward my goals?"
+ Plan the future, but live in the present.
And finally FIRST PRACTICE THEN PREACH, if you wish to manage others.

Eyes are Windows to the Soul

I have just read a beautifull novel - Kite Runner - by Khaleed Housseni. In this novel a character named Ali has facial paralysis due to which he cannot move his any facial muscles leading to absence of any kind of facial expression. Even his voice has distorted to a level that he cannot express emotions in his voice. But still through his eyes, yes only through his eyes, he was able to exhibit his feelings and emotions. This is really soul touching. And so it has been rightly said that " EYES ARE WINDOWS TO THE SOUL"
Eyes are windows to the soul, because they express so much that we can see inside of a person through watching his/her eyes. When a baby is born, one of the first things she recognizes and enjoys focusing on is the human face! Part of what is so compelling is the eyes.

See if you can express an emotion through your eyes without moving any other part of your face! Which moveable parts are the most expressive? What is expressed when nothing moves on your face?

We wear masks every day as we relate to people we meet. We may not always want everyone to know our true feelings, or we may not even know them ourselves! One of the ways that we keep our inner selves hidden is through the contradiction of what our faces are saying and what our bodies are saying. But here again Eyes never lie !
Through your facial expression you may hide your real emotions but if I look deep inside your eyes , I know what you are feeling. Whether you are a bit uneasy, a bit tense , very happy but trying to conceal yr happiness publicly so and so.......
I was once a bit terrible mess. I never paid much attention to her at all. It is only after a incident which unsettled me that I just give a full good look at her eyes. I found them so kind full of love for me. All the pains which I was going through, her eyes said - I share your pain - This was enough for me to cool myself.

Her eyes radiate a kind of calm n happiness even in adverse time ! Her eyes always look for good in me.

A friend is someone who knows the song of your heart and who can sing it for you when you have forgotten it. Thanx for being like that.