Returned from my home at Siwan on 29th March after celebrating Holi there with family. Last time when i celebrated holi at my home in siwan was in the year 2003 . That time I celebrated this festival with my Father. With the death of my father in 2004 , we never went there during festival days. So much sentiments are attached with that my house , but could not 'dare' to go there in holi .
It is a fact that it is only holi when I tried every year to be with my parents at Siwan or my village. I remember that barring a few (One or Two) , every year I made it a rule to be with them during holi. This 'rule' didnot apply on other festivals like Diwali etc.
My father was such a towering personality that entire area revolved around him for every kind of advice. He was so active in social works that each and everyone of area essentially used to greet him in holi by paying a visit to my house.
That is the main reason that after the sad demise of my father , that I thought me and my mother , my wife, children will not be able to remain normal at siwan during holi.
Holi at siwan without my father is very disturbing, but life has to move on. So after nine years of death of my father , I decided to go to siwan during holi and feel his omnipresent presence at the home which he had built with so much passion.
It was an emotional visit. I liked and enjoyed it .
"When life gives you a hundred reasons to cry, show life that you have a thousand reasons to smile. "
Sunday, 31 March 2013
Wednesday, 6 March 2013
Marriage Anniversery
Today is my marriage anniversery. We now have completed 21 years of marital bliss. Sure, there were ups and downs, But overall, it has been a wonderful ride together. And the joyride continues..........
The marital life has gone through various phases. There was the honeymoon phase, the first child, the second one, responsibility increases, then career movement....
In the trajectory of life, we have underwent many emotional, financial, physical, and psychological changes. No doubt Life has dealt some hard knocks, but we have withstood the blows stoically and have moved successfully in our path of growth and family happiness .Our bond of trust is increasing everyday.
Words are not enough to describe how I feel , today, one of the most important day of my life.
Feeling very very happy and contented and surely lucky to have a great wife....
Finally
Marriages Are Made in Heaven, But Preserved in Earth
The marital life has gone through various phases. There was the honeymoon phase, the first child, the second one, responsibility increases, then career movement....
In the trajectory of life, we have underwent many emotional, financial, physical, and psychological changes. No doubt Life has dealt some hard knocks, but we have withstood the blows stoically and have moved successfully in our path of growth and family happiness .Our bond of trust is increasing everyday.
Words are not enough to describe how I feel , today, one of the most important day of my life.
Feeling very very happy and contented and surely lucky to have a great wife....
Finally
Marriages Are Made in Heaven, But Preserved in Earth
Sunday, 3 February 2013
Best Gift
Life events may not be always as per our wishes, It will sometime shock us, sometime make us feel guilty, sometime just confuse us, but to keep balance and display a positive state of mind is absolutely necessery. Some quotes which are really inspiring:
"People are like stained glass windows:
they sparkle and shine when the sun's out,
but when the darkness sets in,
their true beauty is revealed only if there is light within" "You have to do your own growing no matter how tall your grandfather was"
"True friends are like jewels,
precious and rare."
"No man is capable of self-improvement if he sees no other model but himself"
And finally, GIFTS THAT DON’T COST US ANYTHING!!!
Give the gift of affection – be generous with appropriate hugs, kisses, pats on the back and handholds. Let these small actions demonstrate the love you have for family and friends.
Give the gift of laughter – clip cartoons, share articles and funny stories. Your gift will say, “I love to laugh with you.”
Give the gift of a written note – it can be a simple “Thanks for your help” note or a full letter. A brief, handwritten note may be remembered for a lifetime and may even change a life.
Give the gift of a compliment – a simple and sincere “You look great in red,” Or “That was a wonderful meal - it had great flavor” can make someone’s day.
Give the gift of listening – but you must really listen. No interrupting, no daydreaming, no planning your response. Just listening.
Give the gift of a favour – everyday, go out of your way to do something kind.
Give the gift of solitude – there are times when we want nothing better than to be left alone. Be sensitive to those times and give the gift of solitude,
Give the gift of a cheerful disposition – the easiest way to feel good is to extend a kind word to someone, really it is not that hard to say, “Hello or Thank You.”
AND..
Thanx to all who spare their precious time to read my blog.
"People are like stained glass windows:
they sparkle and shine when the sun's out,
but when the darkness sets in,
their true beauty is revealed only if there is light within" "You have to do your own growing no matter how tall your grandfather was"
"True friends are like jewels,
precious and rare."
"No man is capable of self-improvement if he sees no other model but himself"
And finally, GIFTS THAT DON’T COST US ANYTHING!!!
Give the gift of affection – be generous with appropriate hugs, kisses, pats on the back and handholds. Let these small actions demonstrate the love you have for family and friends.
Give the gift of laughter – clip cartoons, share articles and funny stories. Your gift will say, “I love to laugh with you.”
Give the gift of a written note – it can be a simple “Thanks for your help” note or a full letter. A brief, handwritten note may be remembered for a lifetime and may even change a life.
Give the gift of a compliment – a simple and sincere “You look great in red,” Or “That was a wonderful meal - it had great flavor” can make someone’s day.
Give the gift of listening – but you must really listen. No interrupting, no daydreaming, no planning your response. Just listening.
Give the gift of a favour – everyday, go out of your way to do something kind.
Give the gift of solitude – there are times when we want nothing better than to be left alone. Be sensitive to those times and give the gift of solitude,
Give the gift of a cheerful disposition – the easiest way to feel good is to extend a kind word to someone, really it is not that hard to say, “Hello or Thank You.”
AND..
Thanx to all who spare their precious time to read my blog.
Thursday, 24 January 2013
Back to blogging !
Ah ! I am back to blogging ... It is always a nice feeling to be active in world of blogs. Although , I have not written much in recent past , but anyhow , I did read some good posts of my favourite blogs. A great saying is - The word “listen” contains the same
letters as the word “silent.”- That's what I was exactly doing, though silent , I was always 'listening' to my fellow blogs.
Moreover, I am determined to continue to express my honest feelings on regular basis in my blogs. Let me have some thought provoking thoughts:
"Hate stirs up trouble,
but love forgives all offenses"
"Be nice and smile to everyone you meet. You don't know what they are going through, and they may need that smile, and treasure it."
"It is difficult to give away kindness.
It keeps coming back to you."
"Be not afraid of growing slowly,
be afraid only of standing still"
"Most of us are pretty good at keeping promises to others
and pretty bad at keeping promises to ourselves"
"It is better to deserve without receiving,
than to receive without deserving "
"A loving heart is always young"
No dobut spiritual sayings always lift my mood and all the negative feelings just vanished !
letters as the word “silent.”- That's what I was exactly doing, though silent , I was always 'listening' to my fellow blogs.
Moreover, I am determined to continue to express my honest feelings on regular basis in my blogs. Let me have some thought provoking thoughts:
"Hate stirs up trouble,
but love forgives all offenses"
"Be nice and smile to everyone you meet. You don't know what they are going through, and they may need that smile, and treasure it."
"It is difficult to give away kindness.
It keeps coming back to you."
"Be not afraid of growing slowly,
be afraid only of standing still"
"Most of us are pretty good at keeping promises to others
and pretty bad at keeping promises to ourselves"
"It is better to deserve without receiving,
than to receive without deserving "
"A loving heart is always young"
No dobut spiritual sayings always lift my mood and all the negative feelings just vanished !
Tuesday, 6 March 2012
Some thoughts
We know this much to be true: that crises or difficult situations make us stronger, and that we learn by experiencing obstacles. So, why don’t we apply this same logic to our relationships with difficult people? The key to true happiness and love in life is realizing and honoring the interconnectedness we have with everyone and everything around us—the people and things we like as well as those we dislike. We can choose to be angry, or we can choose to acknowledge our dislike without letting it affect our own feelings and moods. It does feel better to be kind and loving than it does to be angry. So, why not choose love, even when it might be difficult?
Displaying emotions of anger and hatred will only make our personality inferior and demean our own virtues....
Displaying emotions of anger and hatred will only make our personality inferior and demean our own virtues....
Saturday, 10 December 2011
Live Life , Love life
Life events may not be always as per your wishes, It will sometimes shock you, sometimes make you feel guilty, sometimes just confuse you, but to keep balance and displaying a positive state of mind is absolutely necessery. And I have to do that. Some quotes which are really inspiring for me :
Dream what you want to dream;/ Go where you want to go;/ Be what you want to be,/ Because you have only one life/ And one chance to do all the things/ You want to do./
May you have enough happiness to make you sweet,/ Enough trials to make you strong,/ Enough sorrow to keep you human and/ Enough hope to make you happy./
The happiest of people don't necessarily/ Have the best of everything;/ They just make the most of/ Everything that comes along their way./
The brightest future will always/ Be based on a forgotten past;/
You can't go forward in life until/ You let go of your past failures and heartaches./
When you were born, you were crying/ And everyone around you was smiling/ Live your life so at the end/ You're the one who is smiling and everyone/ Around you is crying.
So Live life and love life ---this is the only way
Dream what you want to dream;/ Go where you want to go;/ Be what you want to be,/ Because you have only one life/ And one chance to do all the things/ You want to do./
May you have enough happiness to make you sweet,/ Enough trials to make you strong,/ Enough sorrow to keep you human and/ Enough hope to make you happy./
The happiest of people don't necessarily/ Have the best of everything;/ They just make the most of/ Everything that comes along their way./
The brightest future will always/ Be based on a forgotten past;/
You can't go forward in life until/ You let go of your past failures and heartaches./
When you were born, you were crying/ And everyone around you was smiling/ Live your life so at the end/ You're the one who is smiling and everyone/ Around you is crying.
So Live life and love life ---this is the only way
Tuesday, 26 July 2011
Attitude, Skill and Knowledge
If we want to be successful in our life, what we should do ? In other words what makes us a winner ..
whether he / she is a singer, an artist, a student, a teacher or a business man or any other professional you think of…………some say hardwork, some say talent, Some say tapping opportunity and yet some will give credit to luck etec etc……lots of things to say……..we can keep on talking on this ... some what never ending arguments.
But in my view, only three things are required for becoming a champion. These are:
Knowledge, Skills and Attitude……..Knowledge plays its role as of foundation, basic building block and also supports the other two pillars……skills help in doing things effectually and plays a very visible role in becoming competent (like communication and presentation skills help in convincing others and taking the edge)……..Attitude plays a front line role and is a major driver for converting potential energy into Kinetic energy…….if you have K and S but negative A then still a lot remains to be done for achieving success. That’s why one must have something to do to get the attitude right…..whether one is a student, teacher, sportsman, doctor, engineer, scientist; good thing about attitude is, in every field almost the same sort of attitude (positive) required to achieve success…
It is rightly said that “ATTITUDE DRIVES TO ALTITUDE”
And in my view what is also very important is fact that we can develop these qualities at any age.Gaining knowledge, attaining attitude and developing skill is a continuous process . Let us focus on these to make our life more meaningful and successful.
Monday, 27 December 2010
As this year comes to an end ........
As the year 2010 is coming to end, I am thinking and thinking.... and no doubt this year has been one of the most eventful year in my life. some very happy moments as well as some sad moments which made me feel low like anything.I’m not going to make a list of everything wonderful or sad that happened, but I will say that
the people I met at my workplace (Sasaram) were so nice, the relationships I nurtured here at Patna, I feel really lucky.
Sometime I acted in an unbalanced manner, sometime it appeared that life is hell for me;I spent some time being sad and feeling guilty and feeling stupid and thinking i had made the wrong decisions, but as year passes by everthing started to go in my way. I just started feeling happy and complete, and knowing i was doing they right thing…
And finally I did have some magic moments , simply unparalleled moments of my life... still echos of that make me ecstatic---- an experiance i never have in my life.
And fot that very reason year 2010 will be a special year for me...
the people I met at my workplace (Sasaram) were so nice, the relationships I nurtured here at Patna, I feel really lucky.
Sometime I acted in an unbalanced manner, sometime it appeared that life is hell for me;I spent some time being sad and feeling guilty and feeling stupid and thinking i had made the wrong decisions, but as year passes by everthing started to go in my way. I just started feeling happy and complete, and knowing i was doing they right thing…
And finally I did have some magic moments , simply unparalleled moments of my life... still echos of that make me ecstatic---- an experiance i never have in my life.
And fot that very reason year 2010 will be a special year for me...
Tuesday, 24 August 2010
Emotions in Life
Life is like an 'unsolved' puzzle. No one can define what life is because it is a very complex thing.
It is something that makes you happy and proud at times and makes you feel so low at times that you say to yourself, "What hell is this life!"
In Life, in every moment, something new happens; something that you never expected, something that you were waiting from a long while to happen and something you were expecting to happen. It is a combination of happiness, sorrow, joy, love, anger, enjoyment, loneliness, fear, excitement and many other emotions.
The definition of the word life can't be completed without using the word emotions. Some people work in emotions whereas others work with emotions. So it's very important to understand how people are using their emotions. If they are letting emotions get control over them, then they'll be dragged by others and situations all the time.But, if he is controlling his emotions in a proper way, then no one will ever have control over him.
That is why undrstanding EQ or Emotional Quotient is very important. I just try to control my emotions to a level where things or situations remains under my control. At the same time I believe that displaying emotions is very important in a person's life , simply because it allows others to understand you in proper perspective. However it is also important to know that where and in front of whom you are displaying your emotions. Some persons may misuse your emotions and exploit you. So it is always better to supress your real emotions in front of such persons.
The way a person uses his emotions is what we call attitude. Someone has correctly said, "Your attitude determines your altitude in life".
Attitude is the way an individual uses his emotions and directly related to the psyche of a person. Some people use their emotions in a positive way and some people do it in a negative sense.
It's up to an individual to decide how he uses his emotions.But whatever it is, it is real fun.
It is something that makes you happy and proud at times and makes you feel so low at times that you say to yourself, "What hell is this life!"
In Life, in every moment, something new happens; something that you never expected, something that you were waiting from a long while to happen and something you were expecting to happen. It is a combination of happiness, sorrow, joy, love, anger, enjoyment, loneliness, fear, excitement and many other emotions.
The definition of the word life can't be completed without using the word emotions. Some people work in emotions whereas others work with emotions. So it's very important to understand how people are using their emotions. If they are letting emotions get control over them, then they'll be dragged by others and situations all the time.But, if he is controlling his emotions in a proper way, then no one will ever have control over him.
That is why undrstanding EQ or Emotional Quotient is very important. I just try to control my emotions to a level where things or situations remains under my control. At the same time I believe that displaying emotions is very important in a person's life , simply because it allows others to understand you in proper perspective. However it is also important to know that where and in front of whom you are displaying your emotions. Some persons may misuse your emotions and exploit you. So it is always better to supress your real emotions in front of such persons.
The way a person uses his emotions is what we call attitude. Someone has correctly said, "Your attitude determines your altitude in life".
Attitude is the way an individual uses his emotions and directly related to the psyche of a person. Some people use their emotions in a positive way and some people do it in a negative sense.
It's up to an individual to decide how he uses his emotions.But whatever it is, it is real fun.
Thursday, 12 August 2010
Why some people are so mean ?
At times I wonder how mean people can become to create problems for others when they find that all other methods to achieve their vested interests have failed.... That is really surprising that when things are settled now ,still they are trying to create obstacles. I know this is not the kind of problem which only I am facing. This world is full of glaring examples.People like treading on other people, they try to outwit you all the time, but are probably only really jelous of you.
ऐसा कहा जाता है कि मनुष्य अपने सद्गुणों के लिए कम और दुर्गुणों के लिए ज्यादा जाना जाता है. शयद इसी लिए ऐसे लोग अक्सर चर्चा का केंद्र बिंदु होते हैं. वे हमें नुक्सान पहुचाएं या नहीं , हम उनके बारे में सोंचने के लिए मजबूर हो जाते हैं क्योंक वे मौके कि तलाश में रहते हैं. इसलिए हमें सावधान रहना पड़ता है.
But the bigger question is how to tackle such persons? In my the best way is that you cannot expect every person to be kind and gentle , at the same time if you can see mean people just move on , its nothing to stay back and worry .And most important ,you should not be mean and unfriendly ,
ऐसा कहा जाता है कि मनुष्य अपने सद्गुणों के लिए कम और दुर्गुणों के लिए ज्यादा जाना जाता है. शयद इसी लिए ऐसे लोग अक्सर चर्चा का केंद्र बिंदु होते हैं. वे हमें नुक्सान पहुचाएं या नहीं , हम उनके बारे में सोंचने के लिए मजबूर हो जाते हैं क्योंक वे मौके कि तलाश में रहते हैं. इसलिए हमें सावधान रहना पड़ता है.
But the bigger question is how to tackle such persons? In my the best way is that you cannot expect every person to be kind and gentle , at the same time if you can see mean people just move on , its nothing to stay back and worry .And most important ,you should not be mean and unfriendly ,