Best Gift

          Life events may not be always as per our wishes, It will sometime shock us, sometime make us feel guilty, sometime just confuse us, but to keep balance and display a positive state of mind is absolutely necessery. Some quotes which are really inspiring:

"People are like stained glass windows:
they sparkle and shine when the sun's out,
but when the darkness sets in,
their true beauty is revealed only if there is light within"   "You have to do your own growing no matter how tall your grandfather was"

"True friends are like jewels,
precious and rare."

"No man is capable of self-improvement if he sees no other model but himself"

And finally, GIFTS THAT DON’T COST US ANYTHING!!!


Give the gift of affection – be generous with appropriate hugs, kisses, pats on the back and handholds. Let these small actions demonstrate the love you have for family and friends.

Give the gift of laughter – clip cartoons, share articles and funny stories. Your gift will say, “I love to laugh with you.”

Give the gift of a written note – it can be a simple “Thanks for your help” note or a full letter. A brief, handwritten note may be remembered for a lifetime and may even change a life.

Give the gift of a compliment – a simple and sincere “You look great in red,” Or “That was a wonderful meal - it had great flavor” can make someone’s day.

Give the gift of listening – but you must really listen. No interrupting, no daydreaming, no planning your response. Just listening.

Give the gift of a favour – everyday, go out of your way to do something kind.

Give the gift of solitude – there are times when we want nothing better than to be left alone. Be sensitive to those times and give the gift of solitude,

Give the gift of a cheerful disposition – the easiest way to feel good is to extend a kind word to someone, really it is not that hard to say, “Hello or Thank You.”

AND..
Thanx to all who spare their precious time to read my blog.

Back to blogging !

Ah ! I am back to blogging ... It is always a nice feeling to be active in world of blogs. Although , I have not written much in recent past , but anyhow , I did read some good posts of my favourite blogs.  A great saying is - The word “listen” contains the same
letters as the word “silent.”- That's what I was exactly doing, though silent , I was always 'listening' to my fellow blogs.

Moreover, I am determined to continue to express my honest feelings on regular basis in my blogs. Let me have some thought provoking thoughts:

"Hate stirs up trouble,
but love forgives all offenses" 

 "Be nice and smile to everyone you meet. You don't know what they are going through, and they may need that smile, and treasure it."

"It is difficult to give away kindness.
It keeps coming back to you."

"Be not afraid of growing slowly,
be afraid only of standing still"

"Most of us are pretty good at keeping promises to others
and pretty bad at keeping promises to ourselves"

"It is better to deserve without receiving,
than to receive without deserving "

   "A loving heart is always young" 

    No dobut spiritual sayings always lift my mood and all the negative feelings just vanished !

Some thoughts

We know this much to be true: that crises or difficult situations make us stronger, and that we learn by experiencing obstacles. So, why don’t we apply this same logic to our relationships with difficult people? The key to true happiness and love in life is realizing and honoring the interconnectedness we have with everyone and everything around us—the people and things we like as well as those we dislike.  We can choose to be angry, or we can choose to acknowledge our dislike without letting it affect our own feelings and moods. It does feel better to be kind and loving than it does to be angry. So, why not choose love, even when it might be difficult?
Displaying emotions of anger and hatred will only make our personality inferior and demean our own virtues....

Live Life , Love life

Life events may not be always as per your wishes, It will sometimes shock you, sometimes make you feel guilty, sometimes just confuse you, but to keep balance and displaying a positive state of mind is absolutely necessery. And  I have to do that.  Some quotes which are really inspiring for me :


Dream what you want to dream;/ Go where you want to go;/ Be what you want to be,/ Because you have only one life/ And one chance to do all the things/ You want to do./
May you have enough happiness to make you sweet,/ Enough trials to make you strong,/ Enough sorrow to keep you human and/ Enough hope to make you happy./
The happiest of people don't necessarily/ Have the best of everything;/ They just make the most of/ Everything that comes along their way./
The brightest future will always/ Be based on a forgotten past;/
You can't go forward in life until/ You let go of your past failures and heartaches./
 When you were born, you were crying/ And everyone around you was smiling/ Live your life so at the end/ You're the one who is smiling and everyone/ Around you is crying.

So Live life and love life ---this is the only way 

Attitude, Skill and Knowledge

If we want to be successful in our life, what we should do ? In other words what makes us a winner ..

whether he / she is a singer, an artist, a student, a teacher or a business man or any other professional you think of…………some say hardwork, some say talent,  Some say tapping opportunity and yet some will  give credit to luck etec etc……lots of things to say……..we can keep on talking on this ... some what never ending arguments.

But in my view, only three things are required for becoming a champion. These are:

Knowledge, Skills and Attitude……..Knowledge plays its role as of foundation, basic building block and also supports the other two pillars……skills help in doing things effectually and plays a very visible role in  becoming competent (like communication and presentation skills help in convincing others and taking the edge)……..Attitude plays a front line role and is a major driver for converting potential energy into Kinetic energy…….if you have K and S but negative A then still a lot remains to be done for achieving success. That’s why one must have something to do to get the attitude right…..whether one is a student, teacher, sportsman, doctor, engineer, scientist; good thing about attitude is, in every field almost the same sort of attitude (positive) required to achieve success…

It is rightly said that “ATTITUDE DRIVES TO ALTITUDE”

And in my view what is also very important is fact that we can develop these qualities at any age.Gaining knowledge, attaining attitude and developing skill is a continuous process . Let us focus on these to make our life more meaningful and successful.

As this year comes to an end ........

         As the year 2010 is coming to end, I am thinking and thinking.... and no doubt this year has been one of the most eventful year in my life. some very happy moments as well as some sad moments which made me feel low like anything.I’m not going to make a list of everything wonderful or sad that happened, but I will say that
the people I met at my workplace (Sasaram) were so nice, the relationships I nurtured here at Patna, I feel really lucky.
Sometime I acted in an unbalanced manner, sometime it appeared that life is hell for me;I spent some time being sad and feeling guilty and feeling stupid and thinking i had made the wrong decisions, but as year passes by everthing started to go in my way. I just started feeling  happy and complete, and knowing i was doing they right thing…
And finally I did have some magic moments , simply unparalleled moments of my life... still echos of that make me ecstatic---- an experiance i never have in my life.
And fot that very reason year 2010 will be a special year for me...

Emotions in Life

        Life is like an 'unsolved' puzzle. No one can define what life is because it is a very complex thing.
It is something that makes you happy and proud at times and makes you feel so low at times that you say to yourself, "What hell is this life!"
        In Life, in every moment, something new happens; something that you never expected, something that you were waiting from a long while to happen and something you were expecting to happen. It is a combination of happiness, sorrow, joy, love, anger, enjoyment, loneliness, fear, excitement and many other emotions.
      The definition of the word life can't be completed without using the word emotions. Some people work in emotions whereas others work with emotions. So it's very important to understand how people are using their emotions. If they are letting emotions get control over them, then they'll be dragged by others and situations all the time.But, if he is controlling his emotions in a proper way, then no one will ever have control over him.
      That is why undrstanding EQ or Emotional Quotient is very important. I just try to control my emotions to a level where things or situations remains under my control. At the same time I believe that displaying emotions is very important in a person's life , simply because it allows others to understand you in proper perspective. However it is also important to know that where and in front of whom you are displaying your emotions. Some persons may misuse your emotions and exploit you. So it is always better to supress your real emotions in front of such persons.
     The way a person uses his emotions is what we call attitude. Someone has correctly said, "Your attitude determines your altitude in life".
      Attitude is the way an individual uses his emotions and directly related to the psyche of a person. Some people use their emotions in a positive way and some people do it in a negative sense.
      It's up to an individual to decide how he uses his emotions.But whatever it is, it is real fun.

Why some people are so mean ?

 At times I wonder how mean people can become to create problems for others when they find that all other methods to achieve their vested interests have failed.... That is really surprising that when things are settled now ,still they are trying to create obstacles. I know this is not the kind of problem which only I am facing. This world is full of glaring examples.People like treading on other people, they try to outwit you all the time, but are probably only really jelous of you.
 ऐसा कहा जाता है कि मनुष्य अपने सद्गुणों के लिए कम और दुर्गुणों के लिए ज्यादा जाना जाता है. शयद इसी लिए ऐसे लोग अक्सर चर्चा का केंद्र बिंदु होते हैं. वे हमें नुक्सान  पहुचाएं या नहीं , हम उनके बारे में सोंचने के लिए मजबूर हो जाते हैं क्योंक वे मौके कि तलाश में रहते हैं. इसलिए हमें सावधान रहना पड़ता है.
But the bigger question is how to tackle such persons? In my the best way is that you cannot expect every person to be kind and gentle , at the same time if you can see mean people just move on , its nothing to stay back and worry .And most important ,you  should not be mean and unfriendly ,

Happy days are back

It is said that Life is like a coin. Pleasure and Pain are the two sides. Only one side is visible at a time. But remember other side is also waiting for it's turn.  So perhaps for me it has just turned positive . After ordeal of more than two and half months , I am back again at my desired place of posting.



Happy days are here again
The skies above are clear again
So let's sing a song of cheer again
Happy days are here again

Altogether shout it now
There's no one
Who can doubt it now
So let's tell the world about it now
Happy days are here again

But I have also learnt a lot of lesson. So much mud slanging, so much dirty politics, so much back biting, unethical game but any how it gets managed and I am today able to show that decision of authority should remain intact with respect to me. At this moment of time, I MUST DECLARE IN UNEQUIVOCAL TERMS THAT I AM HIGHLY OBLIGED TO ALL MY FRIENDS WHO DURING THIS PERIOD OF CRISIS STOOD WITH ME.Without their support this task was simply impossible to achieve.

What's greater then mom's love?
Which pillow is better then Mom lap?
Which company's better then friends?
There are some things in life with no substitutes.
Love them forever.

Why I am sad ?

मन में सवाल बहुत सारे उठते हैं. कभी कभी मन एकदम शांत रहता है और कभी कभी अचानक बेचैन हो जाता है. आखिर क्यों. अगर मै एक समझदार और बुद्धिमान आदमी हूँ तो मैं अपने मन को क्यों नहीं समझा पाता हूँ की मै दुनिया में असंख्य लोगो से ज्यादा सुखी हूँ. भगवान ने मुझे जो दिया है उसमे संतुष्ट रहना चाहिए मुझे . पर शायद मनुष्य को कुछ conflict में रहने की आदत सी हो गई है. दिल और दिमाग में सामंजस्य बैठाने में शायद   इसीलिए मै असमर्थ रहता हूँ.
“You can close your eyes to the things you do not want to see, but you cannot close your heart to the things you do not want to feel." So it pains when people raise a finger on my integrity and my honesty how can one say so/ What right anybody has got to  question my sincerity in any relationship. All my relationships are based on the foundation of mutual acceptance and in my life, yes, in my life till today I have not betrayed anyone with whom I have developed some kind of relationship. that is not my CHARACTER. I might commit some mistakes, I may hurt my loved ones but so far none,  has alleged that Rajiw has betrayed her/him. This I can say with confidence with respect to all with whom I have somekind of relationship. I am not ashamed of any of my relationships. I value all these.
अब अगर कोई character assisnation पर पिल पड़ा है तो मै क्या करू? मुझे दुःख तो बहुत होता है जब मेरे प्रिय के पास ही कोई तमाम तरह की उटपटांग बाते करे और उसके पास सुनने के सिवाई कोई चारा न रहे.
And what is more important is an alert is being sounded againist me . So ridiculous! Had I been working there, in that office, in that section , then may be there would havs been reasons for which people should be warned against my habits, my 'character'. Fact is that I rarely visit there, hardly once in a month. Then why anyone should try make people alert against me.
A perfect relationship is based on solid foundation of mutual underatanding and confidence. Anyone is free to walk out from a relationship anytime. Noone can thrust a relationship on anyone. So no need of any warning. This act is very silly and reflects some deep kind of mental problem that person is suffering.
But I find solace from the fact that  still many people understand me as a nice person.that give me strength to fight.
People say about me- "you are master in managing people"................. ooh................ whether it is complement or comment difficult to understand . Still what I feel is that I make people comfortable before me, simply because I just think, at least for a moment , their point from their angle. And secondly I project myself as a harmless yet cooperative person. that makes people to accept me more readly.